Is This Blocking Your Growth?

Have you heard that leaders are readers?  Leaders are readers for three reasons: • They are always improving. • They don’t think they know everything. • They want to pass on knowledge to others.   What Happens When You Don’t Read I love self-help books. I enjoy reading how-to articles. I’m a sucker for a […]

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How to Stop an Argument Before it Starts

Upper management just added an extra hour of work every day for everyone on your team. And you are the lucky manager who gets to tell everyone! When you get everyone together to tell them, you can bet they’ll be angry. Would you like to know how to handle such a situation with grace, courage, […]

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What People Really Hear When You Say Nothing

It’s time for your nephew’s first birthday party. You get an invitation, which you acknowledge and promise to respond to later. Besides, you’ve still got plenty of time. Two weeks later, you get another friendly reminder. Your sister wants to know if you’re coming so she’ll have enough food prepared. There’s nothing worse than hungry […]

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How to Tell if You’re a Dictator at Work

Have you ever worked for someone who made you feel like a slave?  I have.  I was working at a fast food restaurant. Our manager, Mattie, was a real whip cracker. After all, she had a team of teenagers. She knew she had to keep them in line.  Things were pleasant if you did as […]

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Why the Law Enslaves You, and What Jesus Can Do About it

Have you tried with all your might to obey the law?    Have you failed along the way? Maybe you’ve done all the right external things. You haven’t lied. You haven’t stolen. You haven’t had an affair. That’s cool.  And others are probably impressed with your goodness. But what about your thoughts? Have you ever […]

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The Quick and Easy Way to Make Your Writing Sound Natural

Do you suffer from writer’s block? Does your writing feel stiff and detached? Does your inner critic stifle you as you try to express your ideas? If you’ve ever struggled to get words flowing, have I got something for you!   When you exercise, you start off by warming up your muscles. You do this […]

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The Easiest Way to Build Credibility in Your Writing

If you’ve ever written something passionate and wondered why anyone would want to read it, there is one essential factor that stands out above them all. Credibility. So how do you get it? First, let’s look at three things that aren’t to blame. 1) I’m an unknown.  Sure this a barrier. But with forums like […]

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The Best Way to Write Anything

There are two distinct stages in the writing process. The problem is we get the timing of the two confused. I’ve been a writer for a long time. As a kid, I never censored myself. I just got on the creativity bus and let it take me wherever I wanted. I was carefree, happy, and […]

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Two Reasons Time Pressure is a Good Thing

How do you feel about being under pressure?  Does it feel like having a gun stuck into your ribs?   Maybe you feel like the heroes in Star Wars as they watched the walls close in on them. The threat of imminent death is a powerful motivator, isn’t it? Worse still, if you’re an introvert […]

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Why Did I Become a Writer?

I’ve been writing for as long as I can remember. It all started when I was a kid. When the other kids were drawing pictures, I was writing. When the other kids were outside riding their bikes all summer, I was writing. And when the other kids were hanging out together having fun, dating, and […]

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Why Getting Drunk is So Appealing

When I was a lot younger, getting drunk was the bomb. What was so appealing about getting drunk for me?  Well, it wasn’t the headaches or the hangovers. It wasn’t throwing up on the side of an abandoned country road. And it sure wasn’t listening to my friend go on endlessly about being Brigadier General […]

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The Real Reason We All Struggle

If you read my recent post about going on a men’s retreat, you know I’ve been thinking about God’s grace.  I’m a reader, a listener, and a thinker. Steve Brown, one of my all-time favorite Bible teachers, was talking into my headphones today. I like Steve because about 8 years ago, when I needed it […]

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How to Have a Nearly Unbreakable Hold on Happiness

Don’t fuss about trifles. Dale Carnegie talked and wrote about this 80 years ago. It’s easy enough to understand, but ever so hard to do. First, a trifle is something so small we shouldn’t even be concerned about it, right? It’s like getting a fleck of dust in your hair. Chances are you never even […]

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When Life Seems Like an Endless Uphill Climb

This morning I had to face what I’d been dreading all weekend. A bunch of guys from my church, from young and single to older and retired, gathered in a cozy mountain retreat this weekend to talk about grace.   Coming into the resort, I went down a gravel road that resembled the one near […]

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What Funerals Do That We Won’t

A few weeks ago, I attended my Aunt’s funeral.  While I was there, I saw cousins I hadn’t seen in years. I saw their spouses and children. It was a nice visit, but the reason for it was sad.   Funerals, and sometimes weddings, have a way of bringing people together that seemingly nothing else […]

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If You Want to Have Friends, Do This

We all want to be loved.    Nobody wants to feel like their presence here on this planet is meaningless. Nobody wants to feel like they don’t matter, that they’re no good, or that nobody cares.   But sometimes that is true. When you’re in a crowd and nobody notices you, you feel invisible. When […]

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This Election Isn’t Going to Unify America

This week I heard someone say this on the radio:  “This election isn’t going to unify America.” Immediately I knew that I’d heard the truth.  Why is this so?  For all of my adult life, people have been divided about politics. Each side is dogmatic about what it holds dear. Arguments ensue when someone challenges […]

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What Happens When You Tell Someone They’re Wrong

When you hear someone say something you disagree with, what is your initial reaction? If you’re dying to tell that person that they’re wrong, here’s what you’ll get. First, when you say “You’re wrong”, you may as well take your hand, move it toward that person’s chest, and push. It’s like what happens on playgrounds […]

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How Do You Define Money?

If someone asked you to define what money is, what would you tell them? There’s the dictionary definition. Money is “a current medium of exchange in the form of coins and banknotes.”  It’s the cash in your pocket. It’s the stuff that makes your debit card work at the grocery store. And it’s the stuff […]

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She Lit Up Every Room She Entered

  I wish you could have met my Aunt Miriam. Today we joined together as a family once again to tell her goodbye. It was a beautiful service. I was there with seven other pallbearers to take her to her final resting place. The sanctuary was filled with family members and a host of friends.  […]

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When Life Just Isn’t Fair

There is a species of bumblebees called Cuckoos.  They aren’t circus performers. They’re not nature’s alarm clocks either. They are ravenous wolves in bumblebee clothing, led by tyrannical, despotic queens.    Here’s what the Cuckoo queen does. She spots a finished colony full of devoted workers, making honey, raising children, and working the system. She […]

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Get Used to Disappointment

If next year is anything like this year and last year, I’m seriously thinking of becoming a monk who does nothing but transcribe documents from the Dark Ages. Last year I invested nine months studying for an office I wasn’t called for.  This year my wife and I spent nine months of emotional and physical […]

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The Secret to Creating Demand For Your Services

Would you like to know what the top 5 richest celebrities did to earn their millions in 2015? What if you could use the same principle to boost your sales? Well, you can. You don’t need superstar good looks. You don’t need a silver tongue. And you don’t need a special inborn talent. You just […]

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When You Raise the Bottom the Top Rises

Entry level jobs are often the ones we think the least of. But isn’t it true that entry level jobs are the ones on the front lines of a business? Yet it is these members of your team that get the least thanks and credit for what they do to promote your business. Watch this […]

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