How would you like to have a process that will help you solve worry problems, regardless of how big or small they are?
Today you’ll see a simple three-step process you can use to do just that – anytime, anywhere, and on any problem.
Three Steps to Analyze and Solve Any Worry Problem
A big part of the reason we worry is that we’re confused.
Life is full of uncertainties. It doesn’t matter if you’re the greatest subject matter expert on the planet. You don’t know for certain what a day may hold. Any day can have a surprise, a tragedy, or a victory. The path won’t always be smooth.
Add to that the fact that you can’t control everything. If you can control your own behavior with some degree of success, you’re on to something, aren’t you?
Let’s look now at how you can deal with uncertainty, control what you can, and move forward, free from the shackles that worry attaches to you.
The three steps are:
- Get the facts.
- Analyze the facts.
- Make a decision and act on it.
Getting the Facts
When you’re faced with a problem, and you’re at a loss at what to do, worry is a great temptation.
Worry is action. Granted, it’s like riding a bike with the back wheel jacked up. It will spin around endlessly, so long as you provide the pedal power. But as you can clearly see, you don’t go anywhere, do you?
This is like confusing activity with achievement. In this case, however, you’re not accomplishing anything. You’re using energy, but it isn’t serving a worthwhile purpose. And you not only are physically tired when you stop, you’re frustrated, angry, and emotionally spent when you’re done.
Think of yourself as a reporter on a fact-finding mission. Assume the position of objectivity. See what is there, regardless of whom it benefits. Sure, you have your opinion. And of course, those facts that prove your point of view are most appealing, aren’t they? But go ahead and play the devil’s advocate. What if the other side is right after all?
With such an array of facts at your disposal, the next step will be infinitely easier, and more accurate.
Properly Analyzing the Facts
Now pretend you’re Ben Franklin.
This process will certainly be worth far more than the $100 bill that bears his image.
Make a list of what you have. You’ll classify them into two columns. One for and the other against your point of view. Be as thorough as you can here. See the merits of both arguments. Chances are you’ll find the reality lies between the two extremes.
Now take a good look at the list. You’ll have a pretty good sense of what to do after you’ve looked at everything. Then you can take the last step.
Make a Decision – And ACT!
Now rather than waste time spinning the wheels of a stationary bike, you can take action that will move you forward.
The benefits of doing this are enormous.
First, you’ll be free to devote yourself to the action because you won’t be confused anymore.
You won’t be confused anymore because you’ve taken the time to think things through in a logical way.
And you’ll find that the worries that plagued you before have been miraculously lifted away.
Now that’s a feeling of empowerment you can’t get anywhere else!
Now let’s take a look at how I used this.
Her Life Was Hanging in the Balance
One day my wife woke up from a night of fitful sleep and constant, increasing pain. You could see it in her face because her normal cheerful smile was replaced with a troubled expression. Her hand stayed close to her stomach, perhaps because she hoped to control the pain’s intensity by rubbing it.
But the truth was, there was no relief to be found. She offered to stay home and ride it out. Maybe painkillers would help. She assured me she would be all right.
She was worried, and we all could sense it.
I was worried I might lose her. If she died, the children would have to get used to not having their beloved mother around. Since they were still relatively young, I’d be left to raise them alone. We had no insurance, so I saw a stack of medical bills as high as the National Debt coming like a tidal wave toward us.
We had to do something. But what?
Making a Choice – Quick
The first option was to do nothing. Maybe the pain would subside and she’d be all right. But if there was a bigger problem, we’d have to deal with this again.
The second option was to take her to the emergency room and keep her alive. Sure, we didn’t have insurance. The possibility of an astronomical hospital bill was not lost on me. But the looming specter of her death scared me more. If we at least tried to save her, she might come home in a short time and our life would return to some semblance of normal. And if she died because I was a cheapskate, then I’d never forgive myself.
Since I had no idea how much time we had, I chose to take her to the hospital. She was also concerned about what it would cost, so I assured her that we could deal with that later to keep her alive.
Once we made that decision, all concern for the outcome, whatever it might be, washed away like sand in the tide.
The Joyful Conclusion
As it turned out, it was the right choice to take her to the hospital. She was diagnosed with pancreatitis and gallstones.
She spent a week in the hospital. The first five days were to cure the pancreatitis. The sixth day her gallbladder was removed. The seventh day she rested and went home.
The hospital bill was as much as a year’s salary.
We prayed. We worked out payment plans. And we resigned ourselves to owing doctors money for the next quarter century.
But, then God stepped in.
Our church raised enough money in one Sunday to take care of all our hospital bills.
So, in the end, everything worked out better than we ever dreamed it would.
So, no matter what you face that worries you, big or small, you should use this formula to deal with it and move forward. Get the facts about what you’re worrying about. Analyze them objectively and earnestly. Then make a decision – and act on it right away.
Then you’ll live longer because you’ll fight back when worry tries to send you to an early grave.
What do you do when you feel confused? How would these steps have made a difference to how you responded?