You’ve probably heard the phrase, “If you can conceive it, you can achieve it.”
There is some truth to that. If you want to accomplish anything of worth, you have to be able to see yourself doing it. If you don’t, chances are your mind will not cooperate to help you have success.
There are a few questions you need to ask yourself before setting a big goal or taking on a new responsibility.
First is “Can I do this?” To answer that, you must find out what is required to have success. If it’s making a presentation for example, do you passion for the subject? If you don’t, you won’t be convincing. If you’d like to have more, dig deeper into the topic and watch the passion rise. If that doesn’t work, pick something else.
Second, if you know it’s possible, what obstacles stand in the way of success? Fear can be a big one. If you’re afraid, it helps to define exactly what it is that you’re afraid about. If it’s rejection, you’ve defined it for you. If it’s the fear you’ll bungle the presentation, at least you know. Naming the fear is good because it reveals what actions you have to take to face it and overcome it. If you fear rejection, find as many ways to overcome objections as you possibly can. If it’s fear you’ll forget your lines, spend more time studying them.
The third question is by far the most important. If it’s possible and I’m able to do it, is it good for me? What does that mean? Consider this. You’ve learned how to minimize the risks associated with your fears. You’ve dug deeper into the subject. But the whole thing just gives you ulcers because you’re doing it for the wrong reasons. The wrong reasons are violations of your convictions. Perhaps it takes you away from your family more than you’d like. Maybe you’re trying to force yourself to believe in something when it takes all your emotional energy to manufacture passion for it. All these are signs that you should reconsider your involvement.
The third question must be seriously considered because you’ve got to go to the root of whether that thing is good. Don’t leave something just because it makes you slightly uneasy.
If it leads to growth for you and others, it’s good.