The storybook romance of the decade has come to an end. Justin Beieber and Selena Gomez have called it quits.
If you read about celebrity breakups, you’ll see something in common with virtually all of them – a failure to resolve conflict.
They didn’t care about keeping the team united.
As in any relationship, there will be conflict. When you get married, the preacher makes you vow to stay together for better or worse. That’s because without commitment, conflict will drive you apart like the force that keeps the like poles of a magnet from touching.
To keep your team united, you must use effective methods to deal with trouble instead of ineffective ones.
When you’re young, you learn to survive by adapting to the laws of the playground. If someone offends you, you slug them, throw rocks, call them ugly names, and malign the way their mothers dress them.
Did that solve your problems?
No. Most likely it got you a punch in the nose or a vow never to speak to you again.
It pays to do some digging. Find out why the problem occurred. Was it something you did? Was there anything you could have done differently? Is it a bad policy or was the implementation the problem? Knowing the truth will lead to the solution. If you want to cure the disease, it helps to know what might have caused it.
If you have a problem with someone, the playground solution is to tell everyone but that person. But if you don’t want the reputation of a gossip columnist, get behind closed doors and mend your fences.
Keep in mind that whatever you decide to do is your choice. If you get mad, that is a choice. Nobody decides your emotional response but you, so get a grip if you haven’t already.
Assume the best. It’s human nature to be negative and cry that the sky is falling. But things don’t always turn out as bad as we might think. If you confront a problem that can divide your team in half before the beanstalk of discontent reaches to heaven, you will go a long way toward keeping the team united.
As a leader, it’s your job to kill the weeds of divisiveness when you spot them. If you don’t, how can expect your followers to hold it together?