Living in a Fog

Someone said there are two major emotions that drive everything we do – fear and love. 

I hate driving in foggy weather. It’s not much different than driving in heavy rain so far as visibility goes. You can compare it to walking through your house in the dark, depending on your memory of its layout to get you to the light switch. You move ahead slowly, not knowing what might suddenly appear in your path. 

Living in fear is a lot like driving in fog. 

The most disturbing thing about fear is that often it is undefined. You’re afraid, but you don’t really know what you’re afraid of. You don’t know what will happen, but since you’re petrified, you naturally assume the worst. 

This is like driving in fog that never lifts. 

You probably know someone you consider to be fearless. Undoubtedly, you probably admire him for his bravado. Risk to him is as effortless as breathing. What is his secret? Can you get in on whatever it is that gives him nerves of steel? 

The answer is yes. 

You know that real fog eventually goes away. If you want to disperse your own clouds of doubt, you’ll have to do some analysis. You might need help with this, so lay your willies aside and ask the brave what they do in the face of fear. If you’re shy, read biographies of brave souls that tackled the giants in their lives and slayed them. Then go and do likewise.

Here’s a simple way to tackle fear. It’s at least a start. It’s been said that half the path to solving a problem is admitting you have one. Once you’ve done that, you have to define the problem as explicitly as possible to find a solution. It’s the same with fear. Once you know exactly what you’re afraid of, you can take action that leads to bravery.

If it were a perfect world, you could deal with your fear once and be done with it. Since it isn’t, you’ll have to fight the giant again and again. The key is to know what you’re fighting and how to win. Keep it up and the fear will fade. 

Maybe one day you’ll be the brave person someone else looks to for help fighting his own giants.

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