When someone shares a secret they have sat on for a really long time, it’s a big deal.
If you ever kept something hidden, it takes a lot of energy out of you. First of all, you commit yourself to constantly worry about being found out. If that should happen, then your facade of having it all together will fall apart like Humpty Dumpty when he fell.
Oftentimes, secrets are born out of shame. You have this guilty pleasure you like to indulge in. But you don’t want others to know you do it because of what they might think of you if they found out. It can be smoking, drinking, pornography, having an affair, stealing from your employer, and a host of other things.
The greatest fear you have is getting on the news when your world unravels.
So if you know what could happen, why would you do it in the first place? I mean, aren’t you a reasonably sane person?
At least that is the picture you wish to portray to the outside world.
But inside you know you’re messed up. You find what you’re doing attractive and that is why you keep doing it.
Well meaning friends you might confide in might tell you to just stop it. The problem is that once the chains of habit are forged, your emotions get involved. Once you’re emotionally connected to something, reason has a really high wall to climb to get to the heart of the matter.
Here’s the secret to revealing secrets. Once you tell it, it’s not a secret anymore. Once that happens, the secret loses its power. All the pretense that accompanied the secret fades away like smoke in the wind.
Then you are free to make a change.