You Get What You Look For

When the writer of Proverbs 7 looks out the window to see the young man, he sees someone headed for trouble.

Today we’ll look at the kid in Proverbs 7 who just “happens” to end up with a prostitute.
The young man was in the woman’s neighborhood, near her house, and knew that she would be there to ask him in.
Today’s version of that might be the singles bar or the wild office party where you find yourself waking up in a stranger’s apartment. Oh wait! No, it’s your coworker, the one you’ve had a thing for but never really said so until the fifth drink spilled it out of you.
Was it an accident?
Nope.
Too much alcohol will just manifest the desires you had already. You may keep them secret when you’re sober (and do it poorly), but given the “right” opportunity, you’d jump at the chance.
So, what the young man had was a heart problem.
We all know that God has given us the power of choice. We are therefore responsible for what we choose to do. You’ve probably noticed that there is no lightning bolt when you flirt with someone else while you’re married. There’s no cosmic lock on your mind that keeps your from lusting after swimsuit models or undressing others with your eyes. No angel appears when you turn the pages of that steamy romance novel.
You’re free.
This is why the writer of Proverbs goes to such length about adultery. We, being sinful people, have an incredible way of rationalizing our favorite sins.
“Well, if no one sees me, then it’s like it never happened.”
“If I don’t actually have sex with anyone, it won’t hurt anybody.”
Rationalizations are the lies we tell ourselves to escape guilt.
Listen, God doesn’t tell you that you can’t have sex because he doesn’t want you to have any fun. He’s trying to protect you from the pain that sex outside of marriage can bring. He’s after your joy and that comes from living life as He intended. And He has set you free so you don’t have to keep going back to the things that bind you.
If you struggle with sex, Jesus knows what you’re going through. Trust Him. He’ll help you through it.
It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it.